Where Is My Daughter? Late Deputy Governor's Mother Asks Fayemi

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Tears flowed freely in Ekiti State on Sunday following the announcement of the death of the Deputy Governor, Mrs. Funmilayo Olayinka, who died at 52 on Saturday after a protracted battle with cancer.

The deputy governor’s parents, Chief Festus Famuagun, and his wife, Grace, were inconsolable when Governor Kayode Fayemi and his wife, Bisi, visited the bereaved family at Isato area of Ado Ekiti on Sunday.

The deceased’s mother, who is 80 years old, rhetorically asked the governor, “Kayode, where is Funmi? Kayode, where is your deputy?”

The governor, who was moved to tears by the question, intermittently removed his glasses to wipe tears from his face with his handkerchief. While the governor tried in vain to console the father, his wife also made attempts to console the mother but it was in vain.

Chairman of the Action Congress of Nigeria in Ekiti State, Chief Jide Awe, burst into tears during an interview with journalists at the residence of the deceased.

Awe, who had tried hard to fight tears, burst into tears as Olayinka was referred to as the late deputy governor. The ACN chairman described Olayinka as a pillar of support for the ACN and the government of the state.
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Revolution Can't Happen Because Nigerians Are Too Scared; Says Gov Amaechi

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Rivers State Governor and Chairman of Nigerian Governors' Forum, Rotimi Amaechi, has ruled out the possibility of having a violent revolution in the country because of the fear factor in many Nigerians.
“Yes, revolution can happen outside Nigeria. But here, I do not think so. Tell me what happened in Sudan, Libya, Zimbabwe and other countries that have not happened here. Our elasticity has no limit. You do not pray for electricity to be regular but you know that some Nigerians pray ‘God, let the light be stable today.’ 
We pray without working to solve our problems and we think God will do what we are supposed to do for us.”
Governor Amaechi stated this in Ekiti State on Saturday at the second Nigeria Symposium for Young and Emerging Leaders. He said many Nigerians had become used to suffering rather than pushing for a change.

According to him, Nigeria has experienced worse situations than what led to revolution in some other countries but fear will not allow them take necessary action.

Amaechi said he was sure that those who gathered to protest against the removal of oil subsidy in January 2012 would flee immediately the President drafted soldiers to the Freedom Park in Lagos and other states to quell the uprising, and so it happened.

Stressing that courage is very important to make any meaningful change in Nigeria, Governor Amaechi said anyone who truly wants to see change in Nigeria would never be afraid of guns.

I think he has spoken the truth. Do you agree with him that Nigerians are too scared?
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Describe This Romantic Boy With One Word

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One Word Please!!!
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Karen Igho Celebrates Birthday At The Orphanage (PHOTOS)

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According to Karen Igho, she really had fun with the kids at the Red Cross Orphanage as part of her activities to mark her birthday; The Night Party pictures come your way shortly.More pictures after the jump:



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Made In Togo Juju

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Advance Fee Fraud, popularly known as “419” in Nigeria, is not news to an average countryman. However, what many are unaware of is the deeper dimensions it has taken in some parts of the country. While the Economic and Financial Crimes Commission (EFCC) may have secured many convictions in recent past, more than 90 percent of these illegal transactions go undetected by the agency. The number “419” refers to the article of the Nigerian Criminal Code dealing with fraud – obtaining by false pretence.
According to Wikipedia, Nigeria ranks among the top three countries in the world noted for email scams. The top three nations are the United States, the United Kingdom, and Nigeria (in that order). Similarly, other nations known to have a high incidence of advance fee fraud include Côte d’Ivoire, Benin Republic, Togo, South Africa, the Netherlands and Spain. Names like Ade Bendel, Emmanuel Nwude, Maurice Ibekwe and several others still ring a bell in Nigeria whenever issues relating to 419 are being discussed.
Every state in Nigeria has its own fair share of the activities of fraudsters. Edo State, the Heartbeat of the Nation, is known for many things. The state prides itself of some of the best sportsmen, politicians, academics, business moguls and the rest. While this may be true, a crop of youngsters is giving the state a different identity. What started in the late 1980s as pastime of some school dropouts and incurably criminally minded young men, has today become an industry for the unemployed and underemployed teeming population in Edo State.
Origin of 419 in the state
In the case of Edo State, 419 scam dates back to the late 1980s. Some university graduates who couldn’t secure decent jobs or travel to Europe, as it was the fashion then, found solace in this illegal resort. During festive periods, this crop of scammers would storm their villages in a display of wealth and affluence. Free monies were distributed to villagers, and idle youths who ended up in the farm or engaged in other odds and ends in and around the village. Eventually, young graduates became apprentices to some of the big names in the business who made it through 419. In time, the bug spread.
Modern day 419 undertaking in Edo State took a worrisome dimension at the beginning of this millennium, when drug trafficking and prostitution in Europe became less lucrative. In the 1980s up until late 1990s, an average family in Edo State, particularly the Binis placed high premium on travelling to Europe. Lands, houses and other valuable jewellery were sold so that families could sponsor a ‘messiah’ to Europe who would, in turn, bring wealth to others. As world economies began to dwindle from 2007, Europe became less attractive and attention again shifted to local 419. This time, some mysticism (juju) was introduced into it.
The new trans-border juju connection
Many of the young fraudsters who mainly reside in Benin City and Ekpoma have added new perspective to the business. Although many people often pay less attention to the heinous activities of these young fraudsters, our correspondent who has been monitoring the development can authoritatively report on some of these new dimensions.
In mid-2012, five young men from Ekpoma embarked on a long road-trip to neighbouring Togo. According to one of them, they went to the country to get some spiritual help that would strengthen their hands on the business. He further revealed that Democratic Republic of Congo and Togo have become the new ‘Holy Lands’ for 419 scammers from Edo. They go to these countries to source spiritual powers.
Said he: “A friend of ours in Benin City, who we often refer to as Boss, gave us the hint that Togo was the new destination. Each of us left Nigeria with about N100,000. Sadly, the money wasn’t enough as some of the things we were expected to buy for rituals, doubled. Our friends from Benin had to send us some additional funds.”
Speaking further, he said: “We spent over one week in a thick forest in Togo. We weren’t allowed to take our bath. The juju man said it was part of the rituals. I can’t really reveal the details of what really transpired there. They aren’t things you’ll want to hear.”
There are several other instances of some young men who have also visited local juju priests in South West states as well as Okene in Kogi State. In Ekpoma, for instance, two young men were caught recently having sex at night with mad women in Eguare Market. Upon interrogation, they revealed that it was part of a ritual they were mandated to carry out in order to be successful in their trade (419). There are also some reported cases of insanity in Ekpoma and Benin City of some young men whose spiritual adventure back-fired. Till this day, they still roam the streets.
Involvement of local cyber cafes and the police
In Ekpoma town, for instance, some well-known cyber cafes are the market place of these scammers. These cyber cafes are located mainly within Ujemen and Eguare towns. Managers of these cafes are always on the look out for police, who, ironically, have also turned these cafes into cash cows. One of the managers of these cyber cafes recently contested in the local government election. He is not short of exotic cars, and he makes a show of them.
Some of the cafes operate 24-hours as their ‘clients’ usually ply their trade at night, which is against EFCC’s order, banning cyber cafes from operating at night. More than 50 percent of those patronising these cafes in the city are young fraudsters.
The involvement of some police officers in aiding and abetting this trade continues to anger many residents in the state. It has become a problem in Benin and Ekpoma to drive flashy cars or walk around with one’s laptop. Police officers look out for such individuals to arrest. In some instances, the arrested fellow is brutally dealt with, spends a night in police cell and only to discover that he is innocent.
Some of these scammers are arrested by the police, but are let off under some compromising circumstances. The story now on the streets of Ekpoma is that there is no policeman who does not have personal car and owns at least a house. The presence of the EFCC is completely missing in Ekpoma town. In Benin City, EFCC operatives have made several arrests, but the arrested fellow always resurfaces within hours or a few days – and to resume his business.
While robbery, kidnapping and other vicious crimes continue in Edo State, scammers and fraudsters seem to be having a field day. Everyday, new people are lured into it, while anti-corruption agencies appear helpless. Many residents in the state believe that 419 has come to stay in the state so long as there are no decent jobs to absorb the growing number of youths. 
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Should I Go After Him or Give it Time?

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I really love your blog (and both your novels), it feeds my romantic soul! I struggled with sending this email but I'm losing my mind so I hope your readers can help me. I apologise if you have addressed a similar issue previously but I couldn't find anything so here it goes....

I met a great guy some years ago now. It was like fate because he was in a different country but his friend met me and instantly thought we'd click. He was right, we did. We talked on the phone for about 3 months and then work took me to his location so we met in person. He had visa issues so he couldn't come to me in case you wondered. Before I went, we had great communication and we talked every day and for several hours on the weekend. He told me a lot of things, some that were very sensitive (visa situation e.g.) and he also opened up about his family etc.

I knew I was developing feelings for him but I forced myself to wait till I met him in person before I truly let go in case I wasn't physically attracted to him (seen him on skype but still needed to see him in the flesh) but the minute I laid eyes on him my heart leapt out of my body and right into his hands. Sadly, he didn't return the favour and whilst we spent all my free time together, he would just stare at me and say he liked me but he needed to process what to do with the relationship.

This led to a lot of frustration on my part (after all, I'd given our children names in my head) so the idea of "let's take it one day at a time" was the last thing I wanted to hear. We kissed but never went further but he bought me flowers and took me to lunches and dinners. I met all his friends and attended church with him. I left frustrated that he hadn't committed but glad I had a good time.


I'm ashamed to say, I hounded him daily with questions like where are we going? What are we doing? How do you feel? Completely oblivious to his situation at the time ( struggling, not able to work whilst waiting for papers), all I could think about was how we were both mid to late 30s and we needed to marry. After all, I accepted him with all his problems so what was the issue? I was so childish, it didn't even occur to me that I couldn't move to his location because I didn't have the visa either but I was in love and I thought that was enough.

Eventually, he had enough of my nagging and he walked away. He stopped taking my calls and wouldn't respond to my emails or texts. As we were not in the same country, I couldn't physically go to beg him and I was too ashamed to involve the cousin so I just let it burn and try to get over the pain. It messed me up so badly, I started to go to counselling. There, in the last 6months, I've learnt to see my mistakes. I'm not saying he was perfect but I definitely handled things terribly. I used to get so emotional that I would yell, cry, scream, anything to manipulate him into moving faster. He never said he didn't care or me, all he said was wait.

I was sad that I could have contributed to the demise of our relationship but I finally accepted the situation and started to move on. Suddenly, without warning, I got an email from him (nearly a year after we last spoke) and all it said was "I was wrong, can I call you?".

Stunned, I froze but eventually agreed to talk to him. He missed the time he was meant to call and I went beserk. All the counselling went out the window as the rawness of the pain came back and I felt abandoned all over again (all this because he didn't call when he said he would) and I sent him the rudest ugliest email, called him names and showed out all over again.

I realised my mistake as soon as I hit send but it was too late. I had to email him an apology and ask him to please call. He replied he would but he just was scared of my anger. Eventually he called and no, he wasn't looking to rekindle, he just wanted to apologise for disappearing.

That was 3 months ago and he never called me back but I can't stop thinking about this man. I still have very strong feelings and I am still going to counselling to deal with my anger issues but of course, he doesn't know that. I've been thinking of flying out to where he is. I just can't let it go till I see it in his eyes. A part of me believes he may still have had feelings for me when he emailed me after so long but I blew it.

So what do you think? Should I just forget about this or should I follow my heart and see if seeing him face to face would make a difference? I'm so confused right now but I'm very close to booking the ticket. I plan to stay in a hotel and only call him on landing. Please help!!!
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Women Face Arrest For Wearing Miniskirts In Uganda

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Women in Uganda who go out wearing mini-skirts could face jail or a heavy fine under draconian new anti-badography laws. The legislation would also see television dramas and films banned if it is passed by parliament.



The Anti-badography Bill 2011 proposes that those found guilty of abetting badography be fined up to 10 million Ugandan shillings (£2,500) or jailed for up to 10 years, or both.

Simon Lokodo, Uganda’s ethics and integrity minister, who proposed the  Bill, said: ‘Any attire which exposes intimate parts of the human body, especially areas that are of erotic function, are outlawed. Anything above the knee is outlawed. If a woman wears a miniskirt, we will arrest her.’

The bill, which is backed by Deputy Attorney General Fred Ruhindi, would also see many films and TV dramas banned from the airwaves and internet use monitored.

Mr Lokodo, a former Catholic priest defrocked by the Vatican for his involvement in politics, said that would mean that celebrities such as Beyoncé and Madonna would be banned from Ugandan television. ‘Television should not broadcast a sexy person,’ he said. 

He added: ‘On the internet, we’re going to put a monitoring system so we know who has watched which website and we know who has watched badographic material.’

Mr Lokodo said the Bill was needed to protect women and children against exploitation and curb increasing immorality. If passed, the proposed law would mark a return to the era of dictator Idi Amin, who banned short skirts.

Many Ugandans are against the idea and some have taken to Twitter to express their outrage using the hashtag #SaveMiniSkirt.

But on Thursday the draft law ran into problems when some members of the Legal and Parliamentary Affairs Committee voiced concerns about its implications for freedoms guaranteed in the Constitution.

MPs said the Bill’s definition of badography was too broad and said it went against Uganda’s tradition of being a tolerant country. The Bill defines badography as any cultural practice, behaviour or form of communication that depicts unclad br***sts, thighs, butt00cks or genitalia.

The definition also includes anyone engaged in explicit sexual activities, erotic behaviour intended to cause sexual excitement and any indecent act or behaviour tending to corrupt morals.

But MPs criticised the lack of definition about what constituted ‘decent dressing’ and said the Bill could inhibit the sexual behaviour of married couples. They asked the Government to stop curtailing freedoms, which they said could scare away tourists.

Mr Lokodo responded by saying that the legislation will not outlaw ‘any act or behaviour between spouses or couples performed in fulfilment of their conjugal rights and responsibilities, where such matters are strictly private.’

He said that one of the dangers of badography is that it fuels sexual crimes against women and children, including rape and child molestation. He suggested that women who were victims of sexual violence were sometimes attacked because of their provocative dress.

‘One can wear what one wants, but please do not be provocative,’ he said. ‘People who are indecently dressed … do it provocatively and sometimes they are attacked.
‘An onlooker is moved to attack her and we want to avoid those areas. He is a criminal but he was also provoked and enticed.’ While some committee members said that badography was already outlawed under Ugandan law, Mr Lokodo said that the existing laws only covered the publication of obscene material and that the issue of badography transcended publication.

Mr Lokodo is no stranger to controversy. Last year he raided a workshop for gay activists and announced a ban on 38 pro-gay groups, saying they were undermining the national culture by promoting homosexuality.
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AMNESTY CONTROVERSY: There is no difference between N-Delta militants and Boko Haram Islamists

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Mallam Yusuf Olaolu Ali




Mallam Yusuf Olaolu Ali is a Senior Advocate of Nigeria (SAN). In  this interview, he advances reason why Boko Haram Islamists deserve amnesty like the Niger Delta militants.  He also speaks on how the law can be strenghtened to curb corruption. Excerpts:

Insecurity in Nigeria seems to be on the increase. What is it that we aren’t getting it right to stem it?

Security is everybody’s business. We need people who will be paid by the state to give information. That’s the way it was in the police.  The DPO had budget for informants to be paid.No matter how sophisticated your gadgets may be, you still need human elements; informants.

Security operatives should not be stereotyped in their investigative ability and performance. They must be dynamic. For example, if the Kwara commissioner of police had been killed in Kwara State, they could have said it was Boko Haram that did it. Many killings in the North may not have any thing to do with Boko Haram if properly investigated.

If a man is killed, look at his life one year before the incident, who he had been associating with, business dealings, etc. Government too will have to do more to save lives and property. Man submits to society with the understanding that security will be provided, under social contract theory.

Quality of personnel, gadgets should be improved upon. Forensic investigations should be encouraged and finger prints technology should be improved upon. We must all see security as our business and encourage security operatives in our different ways. Government should provide CCTV in public commercial buildings to be  solar-powered in case of poor electricity.

Many have suggested that the anti-graft agencies should be merged to ensure harmonisation of cases. What do you think?

It is not the agencies but the character of the man on the seat. If a devil appoints an angel to take care of an affair, the result will be angelic. We should have standard for public moral behaviour. It’s lacking in this country. Nobody cares when they hear a governor has ten girlfriends.

In spite of our religiousity, we are godless. Some countries that are less religious have better fear of God. God saves an American governor who has an affair or having children out of wedlock. But it’s a common thing here. No one cares. We lack morality,  that’s the problem.

No amount of gun can suppress the will of the people,  IBB once said, people should put a stop to the mess. Journalists should ostracise those we know are corrupt and the dregs of the society who are drawing Nigeria down, no matter their offices.  Unfortunately, we promote them.

That’s my grouse. In the good old days, ostracisation worked because you know you will be shunned when found guilty of bad social behaviour. Crooks are now the best people in the society. As churches and mosques are growing, so also is morality going down.

Tell me a church or mosque which rejects money from a person whose donation is far above his income? President of CAN says his private jet is a gift. From whom? We must know the person and what he does. Journalists should help us do that.

Should amnesty be granted to members of Boko Haram?

I think so. Why should they not be granted amnesty? My position is that we must do everything that will bring peace to this country and promote continued existence of Nigeria. I don’t see much difference between the Niger Delta militants and members of Boko Haram.

We’ll be playing the ostrich if we now say no because it’s Boko Haram. We say it’s Boko Haram because it’s happening in the predominant northern region. We should not politicise the issue. Has anyone said it’s the Christians sponsoring the Niger Delta militants?

Why is it that every time problem happens in Muslim predominant area, they say it’s religious? These are social problems. It does not matter the way they put it. When they say people should not go to school, it’s part of social problems. It means they have not seen the benefits of those who go to school.

It’s a social problem and not religious. The first thing ypu know about Islam is that it promotes knowledge. So, how can any serious Muslim say education is bad, haram or illegal to be educated? Mind you, this knowledge does not differentiate between mundane or spiritual.

It says it’s universal knowledge, unadulterated and no boundary. To me, there is no difference between the militants and Boko Haram. The Niger Delta militants had their leaders in Dokubo, Tompolo etc. The so-called Boko Haram has their leaders too as shown on YouTube, etc. How then can you say that they are ghosts? All the foot soldiers that worked with Dokubo, Tompolo etc, were they known to anybody until the amnesty was granted? We should not play ostrich and so they should be granted amnesty too.

What is your take on the state pardon granted to some Nigerians?

One must be objective on a matter of this nature. We have to separate the matter into two. Legally, the president and state governors possess the power under our Constitution to grant state pardon to anybody, even people who have been convicted for murder. And there is no offence that is excluded under the law for state pardon to be granted.

So, on the law, one can hardly state pardon granted to anybody. But one can look at the issue from the social and moral ground. In criminology, the prevalence of a particular kind of offence calls for a severer punishment. One of the problems we are battling with is kidnapping, and that’s why some states are passing laws that kidnappers should be killed because it’s getting too prevalent.

Corruption has become so endemic in our society. That’s why some people in the country, including me, have called for death penalty. But others say death penalty is too grievous and thus recommended life imprisonment. All these calls only point to one thing clearly, that most Nigerians agree that corruption has become too endemic, even to the corporate existence of the nation itself.

Now, in granting a pardon or exercising the prerogative of mercy, the president or governors must take a holistic view of the particular crime, the prevalence of the crime, the social fabric and the morals of the public because, all said, the state is the custodian of the morals of the public.

Given our situation, our circumstances and the fact that Nigeria had sunk so low on corruption index of Transparency International and all other objective organisations, you then want to ask yourself, should we grant pardon to somebody who had been convicted of any corruption-related offence at this point in our national life?

Given the battle cry of the president himself that he wants to battle corruption; given the fact that we are told everyday that all the anti-corruption agencies are free to pursue, go after, arrest and prosecute anybody who is found liable of any form of corruption, that is where we have to situate any pardon granted. Of course, the argument could be that if somebody who killed could be pardoned, why not somebody who was found guilty of corruption? But, it’s true that somebody’s life is very extreme.
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Kano State Declares That Anyone Who Is HIV Positive Or Pregnant Won’t Benefit From Mass Wedding Program

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Ahead of the third round of the Kano mass wedding, the Hisbah Board in the state yesterday started screening couples.

Our correspondent, who visited the venue of the exercise, gathered that about eight persons among the prospective couples have so far tested positive to HIV, while some women who came to seek spouses were found to be pregnant.

On why they applied for the marriage despite their conditions, a woman who gave her name simply as Umma said that she was not aware that she was still pregnant as she had earlier gone for an abortion.

“I was shocked when I tested positive because I thought I had aborted the pregnancy. It is an act of God,” She said.

The Assistant Commandant General, Women wing of Hisbah, Zahra’u Muhammd told Daily Trust that anyone who is found to be HIV positive or pregnant would not be a beneficiary of this mass wedding programme.

“We cannot go ahead with marriage arrangement for HIV carriers, we are not advocating for spread of the virus. What we normally do in this case is to advise the woman or the man to wait patiently until we get partners for them who are HIV carriers too. During the second batch of the mass wedding, we married off a man and woman who are HIV carriers and they are now blessed with a child,” she said.

She added that the board will replace the HIV carriers and pregnant women with stand by applicants.

“You know we have more than 1,000 women who applied for the marriage, so we will replace those HIV carriers and pregnant women with those stand by women who are ready to get married at anytime. We will marry off 1000 women on Sunday insha Allah,” she said.

[Daily Trust]
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Bikini Model Insists She is a Faithful Muslim

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Bikini model Maryam Basir says she is a faithful Muslim despite her job
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Photos: 3 Nigerian men caught with box of fake dollars in Lagos

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The police at Special Anti-Robbery Squad, SARS, Ikeja, Lagos have arrested three suspected  fraudsters who dupe unsuspecting members of the public using fake dollars and a fake Central Bank of Nigeria, CBN, certificate.

The suspects, Olasende Akinsiku, 40, Abiodun Akiniyi, 35, and Tajudeen Lasisi, 40, (pictured above) were arrested following a complaint by a retired Major General to Abba Kyari, the officer in charge of SARS, that he was swindled by the arrested suspects.


Akinsiku, who hails from Ondo state, said their victims that they stole the dollars from their place of work and wanted to convert it into naira  at a cheap rate so that the victims will not suspect that the dollar notes were fake.

The graphic artist explained further that he was introduced into the crime by his friend, Abiodun alias Tokunbo Babatunde, the owner of the machine they use to print the fake dollars.
On how they were arrested, Akinsiku said it was when he went to meet the General at Women Development Centre, Agege, to collect another N40,000 with Abiodun that they were arrested by officers from SARS.

The Ewe, Oyo state-born Akiniyi in his confession said Ajibola Ajimson whom he referred to as his mentor introduced him to the  General  in 2010 and he met the General in  Abuja at that time where the general concluded arrangement to come back to Lagos to transport the consignment with bullion van to Abuja.
In order to make the dollars which were neatly packed in a small steel box look real, the group forged a  CBN certificate which has the inscription ‘Vol: $2.5 million’,  ‘domination’ — mixed, Grade A. One, and ‘consignee’ the name of the retired general.

Abiodun also forged a CBN identity card bearing the name Tunde Bakare (Mr.) with No.011
While confirming the story, the Lagos state Police image maker, Ngozi Braide, a Deputy Superintendend of Police, said the suspect, will be arraigned  as soon as investigation is concluded and warns youths to shun criminal acts.

The Lagos state police boss, Mr. Umar Manko, also promised criminals in the state  hell if they did not stop their criminal acts. (PM News) 
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BREAKING NEWS:Deputy Governor of Ekiti State Mrs Funmilayo Olayinka Is dead

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Deputy Governor of Ekiti State in Nigeria, Mrs Funmilayo Olayinka, has died of cancer according to family sources
Funmilayo Olayinka has been deputy governor since 16th October 2010. She was also a champion of women’s rights. She came to the government from the banking sector.
She leaves behind a husband and three children.
She was 52 years old.
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Top 10: Mind Games Women Play

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Understanding the opposite s**x can be a job in itself, and translating the games women play can make the job even tougher. Let's face it -- you don't want to be engaging in psychological warfare with any female.

Well, fear not; below are the top 10 games women play in the dating world, explicitly deciphered just for you.



Number 10

The waiting game
You called her and, although you usually don't do this (or at least you shouldn't), you left a message for her to call you back. Hours or even days may pass before she returns your call. She's biding her time because she doesn't want to look too eager or too interested. Although she's interested in you, she doesn't want to risk chasing you away by appearing clingy.

#What you should do: After a few days, you could call back to make sure she received the message, but after this point, it's up to her to follow up. If she doesn't, take the hint.#

Number 9

The bait game
The "I think I look fat in these pants... do you?" scenario is a tricky situation. Asking for your opinion is important to her; she wants to make sure that you find her desirable. But by framing the question as an effort to validate her own opinion, she's baiting you into jamming your foot into your mouth.

# What you should do: Don't take the bait. Look alive when this question hits. Don't give a long pause before answering. Of course, tell her she's beautiful and looks wonderful, whether you mean it or you're stretching the truth. If her reply is, "You're just saying that," say, "It doesn't matter what you wear, you will always be beautiful to me." Corny, yes, but you will have avoided a major meltdown.#

Number 8

The playing dumb game
This happens when she doesn't want to do something. To get you to take care of it, she'll play the "I don't know how to do that" angle. The task might be programming the T.V or installing some software. More than likely she knows how to do it, but just doesn't want to.

# What you should do: In most of these situations, you could suck it up and do it yourself. But make a habit of it, and she will too. Instead, let her play her game. Do whatever it is that she doesn't want to, but teach her while you're doing it. This way, she'll have no excuses the next time around.#

Number 7

The hard to get game
This isn't always just a matter of her trying to present herself as a challenge. Some women will hold back feelings if there is an emotional risk involved. She could be testing the water before she dives in, as she needs to make sure that you're worth the risk.

# What you should do: If she's not clear about her feelings for you, but is giving you the "I'm interested" signals, then show her you feel the same way. But don't overdo it, as you still want to remain a challenge. Let her understand that you like her, but that you could also easily look elsewhere if things don't work out.#

Number 6

The "we need to talk" game
This game usually begins when you're watching some major sporting event, like the premier league. Once again, she's testing you and trying to see where your priorities are. She needs your attention and she wants it now.

# What you should do: It might be wise to hit the mute button for five minutes, listen to her, and then get back to the game. If you tell her to wait until later, you might as well turn off the TV because you've just started a five hour discussion. She'll likely drill you about how you don't care about her and don't discuss your feelings anymore. Take your pick.#

Breaking through the silent treatment.

Number 5

The trading goods for services game
She'll often take advantage of this game when sex is on the line. She implicitly offers to give you sex in exchange for something she wants you to do. There aren't many women out there who can resist a man who helps around the house, shops for shoes with them or agrees to treat his mother-in-law to dinner.

# What you should do: The more you give into her requests, the more attractive you will be to her. So pick up your feather duster, get ready for an afternoon of shopping or prepare to make conversation with your mother in law. The bad side is that you'll be doing something you don't particularly enjoy. The good side, however, is that you'll be getting lucky at the end of the day. Make sure she lives up to her end of the bargain and that she doesn't get used to this type of arrangement. You shouldn't always have to "do" something in order for her to agree to made love with you. #

Number 4

The reverse psychology game
This usually occurs when she says the opposite of what she really wants, hoping you will do exactly what she wants you to do. For example, she wants you to do the dishes, but she doesn't come right out and say it. Instead, she says she'll do the dishes, only you later discover that she's mad at you because you didn't help. Confusing, I know.

# What you should do: She's just played the reverse psychology game and you've lost -- do not pass go and do not collect $200. Next time, watch her actions as she's doing the dishes (or whatever else she's doing) -- if she's banging things around, then you'd better get in there and help.#

Number 3

The mind reading game
This is usually played alongside the reverse psychology game. Fellas, she wants you to read her mind because she thinks that if you really cared, you would know exactly what she wants. Although this is not a logical game, far from it, women still expect you to get them.

# What you should do: Before you get out your crystal ball and start fore telling the future, just ask her what she wants, stating you'd love to make her happy. Show her you're listening and don't waste your time trying to guess what she wants. If you play the guessing game, you'll likely get it wrong.#

Number 2

The silent treatment game
You know you've done something wrong when she doesn't speak to you and gives you the cold shoulder. The thing is you have no clue why she's so ticked.

# What you should do: Don't ask her over and over what the problem is; you'll only make matters worse. The fact is if you don't know what you did, you've just bought some more time in the penalty box. Let her cool off while you try to figure it out. When she's ready to talk, she'll likely approach you, glare at you, make huffing sounds, or throw something at your head. At that point, you can ask her what the problem is, then get on with resolving it.#

Number 1

The ultimatum game
This is the big kahuna of all games. It happens when the relationship is on the line. She expects something big. Possibly marriage, moving in together or a ring -- and if you aren't ready to take the step with her, she's willing to move on. This may be a bluff or it may not.

# What you should do: If you think she's bluffing, call it. Tell her you won't be bullied. If you think she's serious, you better sit down for a chat. If you aren't ready to take the relationship a step further, then it may be time to cut your losses. #

game on

There you have it, 10 of the many games women play. Now that you are aware of what makes a woman tick in this department, you may be lucky enough to lead a sane life with one.

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A MUST READ:True life story Written by a COLLEGE GIRL before she DIED.....

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I Took Off My UNDERWEAR..

I used to be that innocent girl who had the world at her feet. I was beautiful and I had eyes and HIPS that could make men sway, andto top it all up, I was a Christian, a very good Christian with a heart burning for God. When I entered the university, I met a guy, his name was DERRICK. I couldn't believe my luck the first time I bumped into him on my way to class, he had such a kind smile and a tender look that weakened my knees when he spoke. Because I was late for class we couldn't talk much but barely three weeks later, I met him at the fresher’s night party and I was overwhelmed. We got talking and I found out that he was in his second year and from that night, we became an inseparable pair. At first, we were friends and as months passed by, we got closer and closer and the chemistry between us was undeniable.


About a year after I entered the university, Derrick and I started dating. He was everything a girl could ever want and desire save the fact that he wasn't so much of a Christian. Derrick had magical hands that made him hard to resist and most times I fell for it. At first, I felt bad but when I couldn't help falling into the same pit I killed the guilt on my inside. And then one day, one of my friends said I was getting fatter and that got me thinking and in the process I began to linkthe dots…first I had a vomiting spree every morning which I thought was due to a flu and then I had this morning sickness which I felt was due to stress and then my missing period…oh no it can’t be possible I said to myself, I couldn't be pregnant!!!


After a series of test outside school, I realized the deadliest truth, I was indeed pregnant. I was only nineteen, I still had a whole life ahead of me, what was I going to do. I couldn't tell my parents, they wouldn't hear ofit. I had to go to Derrick to tell him what I had found out.


On telling him, I saw him fly into a temper I had never seen in my life. He was so hysterical, calling me all sorts of names and I didn't even know when I started crying heart drenching tears of hurt and betrayal. When helooked into my eyes he must have realized how scared and hurt I was and so he pulled me close and ran his hands through my hair until I had calmed down and then he said tome in the most subtle voice ever ”why don’tyou have an abortion”. I pulled back instantly, I couldn't have an abortion! But when he talked about my parents and the sanctioning of the school and the fellowship which I belonged to, I knew I had no other choice.


Derrick had made all the arrangements and soon the supposed day we went to the room- like clinic. I shivered all through my way there but Derrick kept telling me that it would be okay and that he was proud that I made such a brave decision. When I entered into the room where the abortion was supposed to take place I laid down on the table trying to dissociate my mind from what I was about to do and then a young man told me sternly,”you know I can’t perform this procedure with your underwear on” and then I began topull it off. As I did this a sense of guilt overwhelmed me, first I had pulled off my UND**RWEAR of pleasure and now I was pulling it off to get rid of the stigma the pleasure had brought…what a shame, I felt soexposed.


All through the times that I felt instruments coming in and out of me, I kept thinking of the lady I had become and the hypocrite I hadtransformed into. I let out a sigh, only if I can get through this I muttered… only if…and then I felt a sharp pain pierce through the whole of my body, I screamed but then the doctor told me to be quiet. I felt another pain but this time I bit my lip and then the pain began to come in successions. 

I instinctively knew that something was wrong but I was too weak to talk or to move and then I heard the voices of Derrick and the doctor talking about the fact that I was bleeding excessively.The pain was so unbearable and I could feel myself getting weaker and weaker. With the last strength in me, I pleaded with God”Oh Lord I’m so sorry for taking my under wears off, please forgive me.” and I drifted into a world where the pain seemed less hurtful andthe voices seemed more distant.

Friends, our bodies are the temples of the Lord… Do not take off your UNDERWEAR whenthe time is not right. Lots of girls who gained admission into the university as virgins eventually lost it so cheaply to guys who have nothing to do with their destinies. In a bid to get a certificate, they sold out a destiny that certificate cannot guarantee....she died long time ago..

If U HAVE A HEART and her story and death touched YOU..write R.I.P.....if YOU didn't feel anything ignore........R .I.P
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“Buhari is responsible for the attacks by Boko Haram”

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Dr. Doyin Okupe representing Goodluck Jonathan against perceived enemies have categorically blamed the incessant attacks by the Islamic sect “Boko Haram” on General Moharmadu Buhari,  he disclosed that

General Muhammadu Buhari is responsible for the state of insecurity in Nigeria. "Nigerians should ask him, as a former Head of State and stakeholder in the Nigeria project and a man who wants to be President again, if he would want Nigeria to be destroyed up to a point before he can try to wade in? It does not work that way.


As a former Head of State, have you ever seen him (Buhari) visiting Borno or Yobe State? Have you ever seen him show sympathy to people , either Christians or Muslims that have been killed during these attacks (by Boko Haram)?

Have you see him as a leader, a man who traversed the entire length and breadth of the North especially to canvass for votes seeking an end to the violence; why is it that he cannot use that same clout that he has to get leaders together and say we must put an end to this carnage?

He finds it comfortable to shift the blame to other people. What has he done as a leader, who is from that region to help Nigeria and the North out of this unfortunate development?

Nigerians should ask him, as a former Head of State and stakeholder in the Nigeria project and a man who wants to be President again, if he would want Nigeria to be destroyed up to a point before he can try to wade in? It does not work that way.” Doyin Okupe Senior Special Assistant to President Goodluck Jonathan on Public Affairs

Now that we know Buhari is responsible according to Okupe,  why not arrest him and bring him to justice? Enforce the law Mr "President".
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