SINGLE LADIES: Are You Ready For It??



Most of us singles don’t know what it takes to be a good wife. We just want to get married because all my mates are married or am getting old. Ask Yourself, "am I a wife material",,,,,if I get married do I have what it takes? It is not all about changing of status but been happily married.

The following are some of the things we should learn and prepare ourselves to do:

1) Protect your union.- By this I mean protect it from negative outside influences. Your mother, sisters, brothers, girlfriends etc. This is not to say not to talk to anyone at all but be careful of what you say. Many times when we are airing our grievances to friends/family we tell only one side and paint a picture that is one sided and a bit inaccurate. That can create unnecessary tension between outsiders and your husband and the truth of the matter is you need to be working things out with him.

2) Pick your Battles- Every battle is not to be fought choose them wisely. Some of the trivial things that get on your last nerve choose to let it go. By no means am, I talking of abuse (of any sort) or disrespect but not every little thing risen to the occasion of confrontation.

3) Make Time for Intimacy- This does not mean just s*x. When you have a busy hectic life and so does your mate it is easy to get caught up in putting quality time for each other off until “later”. Life is short and when things get rough this time is needed more than when things are going well. It will help to keep you connected and give both of you a chance to lean on each other.

4) Never forget why you fell in love- remind each other often. So very simple but so easy to forget. 
Just do it.

5) Take responsibility for making yourself happy- Nobody can make you happy and it is unfair to expect that of your partner. Do what you need to do to mentally, physically and spiritually to keep yourself in a good place. Communicate by any means necessary the space and time you need to make this happen and return the favor.

6) DO NOT COMPARE YOUR RELATIONSHIP TO ANYONE ELSES- You never know what is going on behind closed doors and it will do nothing to help your relationship. There will always be couples who appear to be happier, doing better or worse than you. There is no comparison everyone’s situation is unique. 

7) Do not Lose yourself in your marriage & continue to grow. – Never lose your sense of self remember he chose you for who you are never lose sight of that and continue to grow and evolve as an individual. Learn how to be patient and Learn how to cook……..This is the king of all.... 

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