MY FUTURE IS AT STAKE: What Should I Do About This Pregnancy?

I'm 20years old from Anambra state. I'm faced with a dilemma and I would like the advise of your readers. My parents are separated. I grew up with my mom and my dad lives in the UK. 

 Early this year my mom died and my dad started making plans for me to come over to the UK when I found out I was pregnant (3months). I told my dad about it that day and he suggested I get rid of it cos it would jeopardize my chances of going to the UK and my future.

 I'm confused cos I've always hated abortion and my boyfriend's a fresh graduate still searching for a job. If we decide to keep this child, we'll have money troubles. I already love this child and I don't want to do anything I'll regret. 

 Pls what do I do? Should I have the abortion and travel to the UK by the end of the year or have the baby (due in January) wait for sometime before I travel?

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THIS LADY NEEDS HELP: My Pastor Said I Don't Have A Future With Him After 3 Abortions

 

 "My name is Sandra and I am 4rm d eastern part this is my story... I was raped wen i was 14 and it affected me so much dat throughout my secondary education I never had any male frnds n talking to a boy then was a problem. It continue till I finished my secondary skool n lukily for me I gained admission into one of the university in the eastern part and there my problem continued again. 

 After 5yrs of my encounter, I fell in love wit this guy in same skul wit me same level bt different faculty, at first it was so beautiful loving him but at a point it went sour coz he started beating me weneva he is angry n at most times will force himself on me afta d beatings... I wud cry n say I will never 4give him atmost time I will call it quit but wen he asks for forgiveness I wil stupidly forgive him, most times I wonder if I am under a charm or wot... Datz nt were it stopped, I became pregnant, I told him and he said he is not ready to be a father that I shud abort it which I agreed. 

 I aborted it and it affected me academically coz I did it afta my 1st semester yr 2 exams, I cried and ask God 2 forgive n told him that I dnt want the relationship again and he pleaded wit me that infact no more s*x I agree n believed in him bt it was all a lie coz rite now I've done the 3rd abortion and yet stil in luv wit him even afta ma pastor told me that I dont have a future wit him and that he will destroy me and ma future and leave me for anoda girl... Plz I nid help coz I am running mad, diz whole thing is affecting me badly both academically... Wot do I do course some part of me still want to be with diz guy bt life n future is astake.

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The 5 things you should NEVER say by text

Does texting make us more honest? Or are there some things easier said by text? As researchers at the University of Michigan say we’re more open to disclosing sensitive information via text, Cosmo reveals the five things that should never be conveyed through the medium of a text message. Ever.

1. “I don’t think this is working.”

Admit it, you’d be up in arms if a guy sent it to you, so same goes. Breaking up over text just ain’t cool, whoever you are. As easy as it is to send that text, it’ll be much better coming from you in person. So s*ck it up...

2. “Don’t tell anyone, but...”

As a general rule, if your text starts with this then DON’T hit that send button. Secrets should be told face-to-face where the person can’t press a forward button. Word.

3. “I’m pregnant.”

Seriously, step away from that mobile. Do you really want to give your partner a ‘bringing life into this world’ moment to happen on your iPhone? In fact, anything involving your ladyparts shouldn’t be discussed over text. Unless it’s a sext, obvs.

4. “I love you.”

If you’re ready to use the big ‘L’ for the first time, PLEASE don’t text it. Apart from the obvious fact that you’ll not be able to bask in the actual L.O.V.E with your man, how the hell are you supposed to gauge his reaction? And what if you get a “you too,” or a “:)”back. *shudder*

5. “Soz :(”

Would you forgive someone who apologised with an emoticon – insincere much? If it’s a big enough deal that you genuinely feel bad, say sorry in person or even over the phone. And NEVER attempt to carry on an argument via text where your harsh words are much harder to erase. Of course, if it’s something stupid – then feel free to soz away. Sozzers.

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My best friend of 14years divorced her husband, Now she’s after Mine

My best friend divorced with her husband, now she’s after mine, I have been friends with my best-friend who is like a sister to me for 14 years. Recently, she split up with her husband and has been sad and lonely. She has been confiding in my husband a lot about her issues and wanting his opinion which is fine by me.

 Recently i wanted to help take her mind off things, so I set aside a girls’ day for us to hang out, and even got a sitter for our kids. She knew it’s was suppose to be just us, but she invited my husband,When he was taking a shower to get ready, she opened the door on him and very flirty, she yelled “see ya later honey” (cause we were going to drop off kids). 

 She didn’t look, but my husband and I both think it was wrong. Later she flirted with him even more, and tried to hang out with him and talk to him the whole day, like he was her best friend all of a sudden. I asked him about it, and he said that he was not sure what was going on, and assured me it isn’t him. A day later she called while I was asleep, and he told her I was sleeping, and she kept trying to talk to him. 

She asked him if he would be okay with her calling him at 2am to come over to her house. She said someone tried to open her apartment door the night before. However, no one can even enter her building without a key. Even if some one did try to come in her apartment, it would take my husband 25 minutes to even get there. So, why him? Well, my husband thought this was iffy, and informed me of what she said to him.

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My wife can't have children. Is it time to walk away?

I have been married for 12 years with no kids. The doctors say I'm alright, the problem is with the wifey. I'll be turning 44 this Saturday and I want children of my own. I've endured for 12 years and I think I've had enough.

 Is it time to move on? Please I want opinions from male readers only. Thanks Male readers only? Niggam say what? Please ladies, feel free to share your thoughts on this! You will tell me if you're the moderator of this blog. ) BTW mister, giving up on your wife is almost like giving up on God. 

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LADIES' GUIDE: How To Get What You Want From Your Man

Women have the power in a relationship, many of us just do not realize it yet. From massaging his ego to making him believe he's in charge (even when he really isn't), women can apply positive and efficient steps in order to get what they want from their men. 

 In a relationship between man and woman, it can be expected that there will be episodes of misunderstanding and arguments between the two. This is because man and woman are two similar, yet different beings. There are certain qualities in a woman that may also be found in a man and vice versa. Nevertheless, their differences from one another often serve as a wick of quarrel between the two. 

 For a woman who simply wants the best for the relationship, their different perspectives and qualities can be frustrating to deal with; especially if these differences make it difficult for her to get what she wants or needs from her man. Apparently, there are ways that a woman may be able to get her needs and wants from her man; despite their clashing differences through some valuable tips. You need to show your man what kindness resides in your heart. Being kind is thought of by many people as a weakness, but to be kind requires more strength and courage than being cruel. 

If you will be kind to the man you love the most, he will develop a greater liking for you. He will want to be with you and will make him want to give what you also want in order to be with you. Do not nag at your man. If you have the chance to watch a talk show on television, perhaps you know that one common root cause of arguments and problems in a relationship is when the woman nags at her man a lot. Women who nag admit that they do this in order to relay a clear message to their men, but there are other effective means of communication than nagging. 

 Remember that nagging is only appropriate for people who do not anymore have control of their lives. Nagging is done by people who feel too desperate. If you want your man to do something for you, then realize that nagging is not the right way to make him so. If there is one reason that will push him to do what you want, then it is his love for you. Thus, what you can do instead of nagging is to lovingly communicate your needs; nourish and treasure his love for you so he will be motivated to serve you. 

Show him that you are worthy of his time and effort. Men and women alike certainly invest their hard work and dedication on something and someone they know are worthy. Therefore, you can see that worthiness is two-way. You do something for your man because of various reasons: because he nags at you; because you are afraid of his anger if you do not follow him; and because you simply love him and wants to fulfill his needs.

 In the same way, you man will do things you want without the need of being asked, if he also loves and adores you. Do something that will make him happy and he will also do the same to you. If your man does the things you want, then always be able to reward him for his efforts. Everyone needs reassurance from time to time. Your man will know that you value his efforts through the rewards you give him. From a simple casual peck on the cheek, a passionate kiss or a bedroom surprise, your husband will certainly love it. He will continue to do things for you because he knows he will be quite rewarded for it.

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Five Factors That Make Women Insecure

When it comes to dating, most women have a few insecurities and they tend to worry about very different things than men. Your actions can make a big difference on how secure she’ll feel when she’s with you. Here are 5 things women worry about when it comes to dating or being in a relationship.

1. She thinks you might not call her after a date

The first step to building a woman’s trust is to following through with what you promise her. So if you say you are going to call her on Thursday, call her Thursday. If you say Friday, do it. If that’s not your style, though, or you’d like to keep a little mystery, don’t be definite about when you’ll be calling. It’s better than breaking a promise and at least she won’t be waiting by the phone on a certain day.

2. She thinks you just want to have s*x with her

It’s a hard line to walk: If you make a move too soon, she’ll think that’s all you want. If you wait too long, she’ll think you’re just interested in her friendship. So the best way to work this is to just be sincere. If you are genuinely interested in pursuing a relationship with her, let her know. From there, she’ll give you the signals to let you know when she’s ready to get romantic with you.

3. She thinks you’re dating other women

As long as you are honest about it, casually dating more than one woman at the same time is perfectly acceptable– just don’t lie about it. Keep in mind that once you both become intimate or the relationship turns serious, she might assume you are her’s exclusively.

4. She thinks you’re not that interested

At times, even the most confident woman sometimes needs a little reassurance that you’re interested in her and that she still has it. You could let her know how special she is to you by complimenting her or sending her flowers. Find ways to make your woman feel special through a romantic gesture like calling her in the middle of the day for no reason at all. If you both have been in a relationship for a while, you need to work extra hard to reassure her that you still find her attractive. Flirting with other women in front of her can also make her feel insecure. Remember, when you’re with her, devote all your attention to her.

5. She thinks you’re cheating on her

If you haven’t given her a reason to feel that you’re cheating on her and she continues to accuse you of it, discuss the issue with her and let her know that you are committed and have no intention of straying. Believe it or not, lots of women have a lot of performance anxiety in the bedroom. If your s*x life is going well be sure to let her know it. If not, however, be sure to address the issue in the most sensitive manner possible.

Yes, the world of dating is harsh. But if you genuinely care about her, with a little foresight and sincerity, you can make her feel more secure about your relationship and about herself and boost her ego.

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Mistakes Men Make When Approaching Women

Guys make mistakes, and they definitely make mistakes when it comes to women. If it were only seven, guys wouldn’t be that bad off, but here are seven mistakes of a more grand fashion that men make when approaching women. Pay attention. You probably do it, too. These so-called social snafus may not be what you think.

The root mistake. The first and most universal of mistakes that men make is more of an internal error then an external slip up. It is, however, the foundation of the multitude of errors guys make subsequently. You assume that a woman’s mind is like a video game. What that means is you assume that there’s some cryptic mental “cheat code” that can be used that will give you total access to every woman’s brain.

 You are actually subconsciously chauvinistic enough to believe women are such a homogenous group that each member will react with comparable responses to your advances. In your minds, you’ve devolved women from the complex creatures they are into one-dimensional objects to be conquered. In short, you think you can do the same thing with all women to bag them.

Planning Conversation. Yes, planning conversation. Guys try to plan how a conversation with a new girl will go before they approach her. When the conversation doesn’t go as planned, men will freeze up and not know what to do. Why not listen to her and respond, actually having a real conversation? You’ll get a lot further than following a script she doesn’t even know about.

Bad presentation. Unless you’re at the gym, you have no excuse to look disheveled when approaching women. Here’s a hint: women check you out before you even know they’re doing it, so you might want to make sure your hair is combed, and your teeth aren’t a ghastly yellow color. Oh, and your shoe game has to be on point. Seriously, women look at shoes.

MADE MAN

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Busted! 3 Stupid Cheating Mistakes

We've all heard about criminals making dumb mistakes -- posting on Facebook about the crime they've just committed or holding up a convenience store using a banana as a weapon, for example. We asked private investigator Mark Chauppetta, who specializes in catching cheating spouses, to share his top stories about cheaters who made stupid mistakes and blew their own covers.

We're curious: What are the dumbest mistakes that Boston private eye Mark Chauppetta, author of Happens All The Time: Cheating in the Good Ol' U.S.A., has seen cheaters make? He gave us his top three stories about two-timers who didn't even need his help getting busted.

1. Hide and seek

"I once had a female client call off an investigation because while she was cleaning out her husband's closet, she found a maid's outfit, a pair of nipple clamps and lubricant. The husband swore up and down that he bought it for her, however, when she pointed out the top was for a D cup when she is an A cup, the cat was out of the bag, and he confessed to it all."

2. Online dating fail

"We were hired by a male client who was separated from his wife and started dating a woman he met online. This new flame of his sold him a bill of goods, saying that she was the heiress to a fortune in France and that soon she would lavish him with a life he always dreamed of. For the time being, though, she had no money and was continuously milking him for tens of thousands of dollars. We were hired to investigate if she was soon going to hit the jackpot and claim her inheritance. Take a guess what we found out."

3. Dial C for cheater

"One woman hired us to investigate a cheating boyfriend. The problem was that my rookie agent had lost the subject in rush-hour traffic and started to panic. I instructed him to canvas the area before I informed the client, since this is always standard operating procedure. Turns out that wasn't even necessary. Almost as soon as I hung up with him, the client called and informed us that her boyfriend had butt-dialed her (that's when a guy leaves his cell phone in his back pocket and the buttons get accidentally pressed), and she overheard a whole in-person conversation between him and a female about how he was playing his wife for a fool. Well, he also mentioned where they were eating, so I sent my agent in, and we retrieved all the hidden video we needed of them holding hands and kissing."

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