Signs That You’re In A Wrong Relationship

Sometimes we hold on to relationships even thought we know that they are simply not good enough for us. here are a few signs that you need to say goodbye to that person:

1. You’re not Happy This is a great place to start. Someone who is dating the right person consistently enjoys the relationship and feels a general sense of happiness. We’re not saying that they wouldn’t argue or be upset with their partner occasionally; even the healthiest couples do that. And we’re not saying that there wouldn’t be times when a person in a good relationship would get down or struggle emotionally at some point. But generally speaking, a person who is in the right relationship should be happy. So if you find yourself unhappy most of the time – and especially when you’re with your partner – then that’s a fairly clear sign that this may not be the best person for you. 

 2. You keep your partner’s actions and words a secret If you can’t tell your family or friends about the many of the things your boyfriend or girlfriend says and does, then you may not be in a healthy loving relationship. If you constantly need to lie to protect him/her then it’s time to get out of that bad relationship.

 3. Your partner wants you to change If your partner doesn’t love you as you are, then it’s time to run! Of course, this doesn’t apply where they genuinely want you to change certain bad habits for your own good. This is one of the most important signs of bad relationships: a person who doesn’t love or accept you as you are. Eventually, such a person will begin to compare you with others and will eventually leave you for someone else.

 4. Your partner doesn’t trust you Constant phone calls, demands on your time, and jealous behaviour are NOT signs of love! If your partner doesn’t trust you or accuses you of lying, then you need to re-evaluate your love.This is a sign of deep insecurity, which could lead to more serious relationship problems. 

5. You disrespect each other If you don’t respect your partner and there’s no respect coming from their end either, then it’s time to call it quits. Mutual respect is an essential ingredient of successful relationships and if you don’t have that, then it’s just not worth it.

 6. Your loved ones are not in support If the people you trust and are closest to feel that you’re in a very good and healthy relationship, then it’s a good sign that you two may belong together.

 On the other hand, if the people who love you the most are begging you to get away from someone, then that person’s probably not the one for you This is definitely not a conclusive list so what do you think people? What are some other signs that you’re with the wrong person?  we sincerely appreciate your comments.

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"Weirdest Things That Happens When You Fall in Love"

  Believe it or not strange things happen when you are in love, even science can  prove some points here. Below are some of the weird thing that happen when we find ourselves in love.....

Your Brain Acts Like It’s on Drugs - Studies have shown that when you’re falling in love, the rush of chemicals that flood your brain—oxytocin, dopamine, adrenaline and vasopressin—are similar to the types of chemicals released by heroin

 You May Get a Little Overshare-y  - An hour ago, you were strangers. Now you’re spilling how you slept with a stuffed bunny ’til you were 10.

 Your brain decides in 20 minutes whether or not a person is trustworthy—so feeling safe swapping stories is a good sign you’re on your way to a solid bond.

 You Get a Spine-Tingling Rush - You know those shivers that start when you hear an awesome song like “Rollin’ in the Deep” or see a beyond-beautiful sunset? Well, those same tinglies occur when you’re crushing hard on a dude, too.

 Ryan Gosling? Meh. - When you’re in love, guys you formerly thought were drool worthy lose a lot of their appeal. Scientists believe this is evolutionary: In caveman times, it made sense to stick with a mate long enough to raise a child together. Now? Expect your The Notebook DVD to gather some dust.

 You Don’t Snap at Bitchy People - When you dig a guy, your brain pumps your bod full of the so-called “love drug” hormone oxytocin—which scientists theorize makes you feel more friendly and sociable.

 You Get Less Headaches- Who needs ibuprofen? Research has found that oxytocin may actually minimize migraines.

 You Can See It In Your Eyes - When you see someone you’re attracted to, your pupils dilate. Even cooler? Research has found that people rate faces with larger pupils as more attractive than ones without, so all that eye contact is only making you hotter.

 You Feel Less Stressed - Kissing decreases the stress hormone cortisol flowing through your body, meaning a few make out sessions can totally chill you out.

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How To Make Him Love You FOREVER

 Very many Woman today, believe men should be doing all the caring and showing of love, but men too have needs,when you show them these little care they really appreciate it.

 Women today have trouble doing the duties of satisfying a man.

 Women believe if they look cute and put on a good pair of pumps that a man will drop to their knees and beg them to marry him.

 There are the basic things that will make your man happy, like cleaning, cooking, looking nice, but there are secrets to really keeping him happy.

 They are as follows.....

1.) Show to him you truly and really care for him,Always ask questions!!! How was your day?, What can I get for you?, What was the score from your game? Most men love watching games especially football so, ask him about his favourite game whenever u know his game is on. A lot of men like to hear themselves talk, and It is great to have the person they love to listen. Now don't talk too much, sometimes they just want to watch the game. 

Trust me when they want you, they will let you know, give you that look and then you go in swift and fast and grab their attention.

 2.) As soon as they get off of work ,spice it up. Can you imagine having another boring long day and open the door and "surprise!", so exciting, you are there dressed up in a kinky outfit. And no dishes that night because both of you will be full from dessert. Being youthful and fun will always make your man smile and be happy.

 This is applicable to the married ones. 

3.) Have a drink together at a bar or anywhere to cool off. Sometimes we forget how to let go of everyday life and just be happy.

 Drinking will help to relax the both of you. Plus you can tell each other I love you a hundred times while eating small chops with the drink. What could be better? 

 4.) Play indoor games together. There are different types of games u can play such as chess, scrabble ,ludo, video cursor games, if he prefers them and Watch movies together. 

 5.) Say nice things to his ear ,Touch him. Holds his hand unexpectedly or hug him from behind.men love that too. 

6.) Women should have opinions debating is important. A man that loves you will love your opinions and he will giggle inside at your crazy ideas for the universe.

 Do not ever say " whatever it is, you like". The king wants a queen and a queen is not quiet. speak your mind and he will smile,maybe not at the time, but sooner or later. Tell him jokes and secrets. 

 7.) Men love freedom, let them have it,no the right time to talk to him about it,Let him hang with the friends.

 Do not be overly jealous. You fell in love with him because he was unique and had a great life. You are part of it now but do not take away his original life. If you want him to stay happy you will encourage his freedom.

 Now don't be a pushover, set your ground rules and joke with him about it. 

 8.) Let him know how lucky you are to have him,tell him nice and lovely things,Tell him he is looking handsome. He is smelling nice and make him feel he can be around you all day long. 

 9.)Ladies have this mentality that is only the guys that are suppose to buy them gift and nice thing!while not try and turn the table around and see his reaction?you we be glad you did.

 I know you we Say" isn't he suppose to buy me gifts?" Well yes ladies but if you want him to be happy and you’re not greedy then go to the store and buy him a gift.

 It is so nice when a man gets his gift and he smiles. Whatever you do, do not buy things for yourself at the same time you purchased his.

 Make it a surprising one. 

10. Dont forget to always have that smilling face, No man wants a miserable boring girl. Smiling is contagious, positive attitude is needed to make your man content. Love him and show him you love him. Effort goes a long way, and it may seem like a lot of work but if you do these things then in return he will give effort and make you happy.

 In conclusion, tell him the three letter words I LOVE YOU looking straight into his eye balls with a smile.

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Reasons why spouses cheat on each other

To some men they think is not bad for them to cheat on their woman and yet they expect them to be submissive all the time.

 This is one of the most important marital issues that really has to be addressed properly since it’s like the percentage of why spouses cheat on each other is fast growing up. Therefore, in this article, I intend to lay out some of the main causes for it, right? But there is one thing I have to be certain about which is the fact that I can’t make a mockery of myself by emphasizing that the points I will mention are the total causes for cheating, else, except you will be ready to read something forty times of this article. A research was carried out after which it proofs that in every 100% of marriages, only about 28% of the spouses stick to each other which equally means that about 72% of spouses cheat on their partners.

Here are 5 reasons why spouses cheat on each other

 1. Inadequate s3xual satisfaction - Of all we are to talk about on this topic this is the most important one spouses cheat on each other, you will discover that, one way or another, it has to do with s3xual desires. This therefore means that, if one of the spouses’ main focuses behind the marriage was to satisfy this need, then without enough of it will certainly lead to cheating so as to satisfy this s3xual urge.

 2. Others were born under the star - If a child who grows up socially with the opposite s3x, the probability that this will continue in the nearest future is very high. For example, suppose a man who usually engaged in many forms of relationship with the opposite s3x decides to get married and bear children, what do you think will be the outcome of his marital status? The probability that he will at least return to his old life style is very high thereby cheating on the other partner.

 It’s no wonder why all the programs for family planning we have around emphasize on courtship before marriage. At least, this gives you the time to spot out certain negative and positive aspects of your spouse before marriage.

 3. Wrong company - Another reason why spouses cheat on each other is when he/she interacts with the wrong people. This is why it’s very normal for a spouse to be faithful and later develops certain strange criteria in their marriage. George was a faithful guy and he makes sure that he does everything humanly possible to secure his relationship with his girlfriend, Marylyn. They almost shared the good and bad moments together until George met Justlain who could not take from him and for Gorge to keep up with the friendship, he had to answer to Justlain’s ways. Not that long, George was as well a drunkard, chaser, and gambler just like his friend. Most of their parties were such that Marylyn could not attend and for George not to go contrary, he had to start hiring street girl. Now, the obvious question is that, what if George had not known Justlain or anyone such as Justlain, would he had cheated? Research also proofs that among the reasons as to why spouses cheat, wrong company highly contribute.

 4. Sudden change of attitudes - Another reason why spouses cheat on each other may be as a result of sudden change of characters. For example, a guy might find a certain girl attractive probably because she matches his love map and later on in the matrimonial home, he sees but the reverse of whom he thought was a soul mate and at this point, it’s totally certain he is disappointed, right? This is the point he starts cheating in order to get a replacement or someone who at least can provide what his spouse could not or what he fails to find in his partner.

 5. Change of circumstances - In this situation, a spouse cheats when he/she fails to meet up with the high expectation when the courtship was favorable and in most of this cases, it happens most with females.

 At first, John usually supplied everything to Sophia  and even when they got married, the going was still smooth until when life turns the other way round for John as it was now difficult to make it up to Sophia.

 With the sort of treatment she got from John, it was now really hard to bear the situation and so, she starts engaging in secret relationships behind John’s knowledge.

 As you can see, as a result of change of circumstances, some spouses might cheat on their partners in order to satisfy their needs but remember that a good spouse will always be there for you in times of pains.

 Finally, as to why spouses cheat on each other, as I mentioned above, there are many reasons why after expressing heart fell love to a partner, he/she tends to dupe you without any meaningful background.

 But I usually tell my students that, everything happens with a purpose. Without purpose nothing exists.

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Marriages Should Last Forever : 10 Ways To Avoid Marrying The Wrong Person

1. Do Not Marry Potential:

Often, men consider marrying a woman hoping she never changes while a woman considers marrying a man she hopes she can change. This is the wrong approach on both accounts.  Don’t assume that you can change a person after you’re married to them or that they will reach their potential. There is no guarantee, after all, that those changes will be for the better. In fact, it’s often for the worse. If you can’t accept someone or imagine living with them as they are then don’t marry them. These differences can include a number of things such as ideological or practical differences in religion, habits, hygiene, communication skills, amongst others.

2.Choose Character over Chemistry:
While chemistry and attraction are no doubt important, character precedes them both. A famous quote follows, “Chemistry ignites the fire, but character keeps it burning.” The idea of falling “in love” should never be the sole reason for marrying someone; it is very easy to confuse infatuation and lust for love.  The most important character traits to look for include humility, kindness, responsibility, & happiness. Here’s a breakdown of each trait:

3. Do Not Neglect The  Emotional Needs of Your Partner: Both men and women have emotional needs and in order for a partnership to be successful those needs must be mutually met. The fundamental emotional need of a woman is to be loved.  The fundamental emotional need of a man is to be respected and appreciated.  To make a woman feel loved give her the three AAAs:  Attention, Affection, & Appreciation.  To make a man feel loved give him the three RRRs:  Respect, Reassurance, & Relief.  It is the obligation of each partner to make sure the other is happy and this extends to intimacy as well. As long as each partner is fulfilled by the emotional needs of the other, the intimate relationship will thrive.  When a man takes seriously the emotional needs of his wife she will feel more encouraged to fulfill his intimate desires. Likewise, when a woman takes seriously the emotional needs of her husband he will feel more encouraged to give her the affection, love and appreciation she wants from him. Working together in this way encourages both giving and receiving.

4. Avoid Opposing Life Plans:
In marriage you can either grow together or grow apart. Sharing a common purpose in life will increase the chance that you will grow together.
You must know what the person is into. In other words, what are they ultimately passionate about?  Then ask yourself,
“Do I respect this passion?” “Do I respect what they are into?”
The more specifically you define yourself, i.e., your values, your beliefs, your lifestyle, the better chance you have of finding your life partner, your soul mate, the one you are most compatible with.
Remember, before you decide who to take along on a trip, you should first figure out your destination.

5) Avoid Pre-Marital intimate/Physical Activity:
Recognize that there is incredible wisdom in why God has ordered us to refrain from intimacy before marriage; they are to prevent great harms as well as to keep sacred what is the most blessed part of a relationship between a man and a woman. Aside from the obvious spiritual consequences, when a relationship gets physical before its time, important issues like character, life philosophy, and compatibility go to the wayside. Consequently, everything is romanticized and it becomes difficult to even remember the important issues let alone talk about them.
Intellectual commitment must be established before emotional or intimate commitment.

6. Avoid Lack of Emotional Connection: 
There are four questions that you must answer YES to:
Do I respect and admire this person?  What specifically do I respect and admire about this person?
Do I trust this person?  Can I rely on them?  Do I trust their judgment?  Do I trust their word? Can I believe what they say?
Do I feel Safe?  Do I feel emotionally safe with this person?  Can I be vulnerable?  Can I be myself?  Can I be open?  Can I express myself?
Do I feel calm and at peace with this person?
If the answer is “I don’t know, I’m not sure, etc.” keep evaluating until you know for sure and truly understand how you feel. If you don’t feel safe now, you won’t feel safe when you are married.  If you don’t trust now, this won’t change when you are married!

7. Pay Attention to Your Own Emotional Anxiety:
Choosing someone you don’t feel safe with emotionally is not a good recipe for a long-lasting and loving marriage.  Feeling emotionally safe is the foundation of a strong and healthy marriage. When you don’t feel safe, you can’t express your feelings and opinions.  Learn how to identify whether you are in an abusive relationship.  If you feel you always have to monitor what you say, if you are with someone and you feel you can’t really express yourself and are always walking on eggshells, then it’s very likely you are in an abusive relationship.

8.) Beware of Lack of Openness In Your Spouse:
Many couples make the mistake of not putting everything on the table for discussion from the onset.  Ask yourself, “What do I need to know to be absolutely certain I want to marry this person?” “What bothers me about this person or the relationship?”  It’s very important to identify what’s bothering you, things that concern you, and things you are afraid to bring up for discussion. Then you must have an honest discussion about them. This is a great way to test the strength of your relationship. Bringing up issues when there’s conflict is a great opportunity to really evaluate how well you communicate, negotiate, and work together as a team.  When people get into power struggles and blame each other, it’s an indication they don’t work well as a team.  Also important is being vulnerable around each other. Ask deep questions of each other and see how your partner responds.  How do they handle it?  Are they defensive?  Do they attack?  Do they withdraw?  Do they get annoyed?  Do they blame you?  Do they ignore it?  Do they hide or rationalize it?  Don’t just listen to what they say but watch for how they say it!

9. Beware of Avoiding Personal Responsibility:
It’s very important to remember no one else is responsible for your happiness. Many people make the mistake of thinking someone else will fulfill them and make their life better and that’s their reason for getting married.  People fail to realize that if they are unhappy as a single person, they will continue to be miserable when they are married.  If you are currently not happy with yourself, don’t like yourself, don’t like the direction your life is going now, it’s important to take responsibility for that now and work on improving those areas of your life before considering marriage.  Don’t bring these issues into your marriage and hope your partner will fix them.
10. Watch Out For Lack of Emotional Health and Availability In Your Potential Partner: 
Many people choose partners that are not emotionally healthy or available. One huge problem is when a partner is unable to balance the emotional ties to family members, the marriage ends up having 3 (or more) people in it rather than two. An example of this would be if a man is overly dependent on his mother and brings that relationship into the marriage; this is no doubt a recipe for disaster.  Also important to consider are the following:
Avoid people who are emotionally empty inside.  These include people who don’t like themselves because they lack the ability to be emotionally available. They are always preoccupied with their deficiencies, insecurities, and negative thoughts.  They are in a perpetual fight with depression, never feel good, are isolated, are critical and judgmental; tend to not have any close friends, and often distrust people or are afraid of them.  Another clear indication about them is they always feel their needs are not getting met; they have a sense of entitlement and feel angry when they feel people should take care of them and they don’t.  They feel burdened by other people’s needs and feel resentment towards them.  These people can not be emotionally available to build healthy relationships.

Addictions can also limit the level of availability of the partner to build a strong emotional relationship.  Never marry an addict.  Addictions are not limited to drugs and alcohol.  They can be about addictions and dependency on work, internet, hobbies, sports, shopping, money, power, status, materialism, etc.  When someone has an addiction, they will not and can not be emotionally available to develop an intimate relationship with you!

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Question of the day: How many s***x partners is too many?

Is 10 men too many lovers for a woman - under 30 - to have had? Please share your thoughts 

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Secret Tips – 14 Ways to Keep Your Man Begging for More of You

God has given you your Mr. Right and your marriage/relationship is as strong, exciting, and hot as ever. My advice is, never go slow in your show of affection for him.

How to keep your man interested and the fire of love burning should be your utmost priority. Make him feel that he is the luckiest guy for having chosen you. Here as some tips to keep your man’s interest:

1. Be confident about yourself. Seeing you looking good and feeling good about yourself will certainly make your man happy. He will also be confident about his feelings for you and his take on your relationship.

Wear dresses that will make you look perfect on a date with him. Don’t overdo your make-up. Just make it light and simple. Natural beauty is still a guy’s preference. Maintain your youthfulness and femininity.

When around him, don’t pretend to be somebody else. Just be your natural self. A man would love seeing you do things for him even if you would look awkward. Singing his favorite song to him even if you’re out of tune will endear you to him more.

2. Make him feel important. Nothing will make a man more interested than knowing that he is important in your life, just as you are to him. Simple gestures like buying him things without him asking for it, preparing him dinner after a hard and tiring day at work, preparing his clothes for work in the morning, listening to him share his achievements of the day, laughing at his jokes, or surprising him on his birthday will surely make him want to be with you more.

3. Make him feel like a man. Boosting your man’s ego is definitely not wrong. Telling him that he looks awesome in his suit or that he stands out in a crowd will make him feel good about himself. It will also boost his ego knowing that you feel protected or secure when he’s around.

4. Keep him intrigued. Keep him interested in you by letting him realize that you are getting more fascinating every single day. Showing him what you are capable of, surprising him of your cooking abilities, dressing up for him, showing your love and care for him in different ways will definitely let him stay. Keeping him intrigued will want him to see you often to know more about you.

5. Know his likes. Your man will appreciate it if you spend time with him and do the things that he likes even if you may not like it at all or may be a bit clumsy with it. It also helps if you do a little research on what he likes and surprising him with them. Seeing you take an effort in wearing his favorite color, cooking his favorite food, playing his favorite sports, or singing his favorite tune will definitely keep his interest in you.

6. Love him but don’t be clingy. Your man is not a robot. He needs space and time for himself and for his guy friends. Allow him to go out once in a while with his friends and also enjoy some time with your own set of friends as well. Men love independent women, so have your sense of independence even if you’re in a relationship with him. But make sure that he still feels the need to protect and care for you. Assure him that nothing beats the feeling of security when you’re beside him. That way, he’ll keep his interest in you.

7. Be well-mannered. A man will surely love you more if he sees that you value people around you and if you show your kindness and grace. Your man will feel luckier knowing that he has beside him a well-mannered woman like you.

8. Give him a massage. Men love to be pampered too. Surprise him with a body or back massage after a long and hard day at work. It simply shows that you care for him a lot.

9. Stay fresh (hygiene, no grandma panties lol, get your eyebrows done, no do-rags)

10. Don’t listen to rumors.

11. Don’t give him a hard time, be supportive

12. Don’t talk him to death.

13. Don’t listen to your single girl-friends

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There are many ways on how to keep your man interested. As long as you truly love and care for him, you will do things for him that will make him stay with you forever.

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